When a death has occurred and you need to make plans for any services and what happens to your loved one after death, that is accomplished in what we call a funeral arrangements conference.
This conference is usually the next day after a death but can be set according to the circumstances between your funeral director and you and your family. This is usually an in person meeting at the funeral home or sometimes at your or other family member’s home. While there is no set amount of time that this meeting will take it is best that you plan that it will take at least several hours to work through all the details necessary.
At this meeting it is important that you are equipped with some items and information. Make sure that you know the deceased Social Security Number and can provide it to the funeral director. Also bring any military discharge papers if appropriate.
Other important information would be parent’s names, including the mother’s maiden name.
Date and place of birth of deceased
Education the deceased received.
Marriage information, to whom, when and where. If spouse is deceased date of death
Memberships to church, groups, organizations etc.
Work History, places and times
List of all immediate family, both living and preceding in death
Spouse, Children, Grandchildren, Great Grandchildren, Great Great Grandchildren, Parents, Brother, Sisters, others? And City and State that each resides in if possible.
You may also want to bring in any insurance paperwork or other documents in which the deceased had laid out plans or wishes for services. If you know that you want a particular Minister or Musicians to preform you would want to bring in their names and contact information as well.
Finally: You should bring a photo of two of the deceased that might be used in the obituaries.
This conference can be tough-but coming to it prepared can make it go that much more smoothly.
Other items that funeral home will want to receive from you but can often be done at a later time.
Clothing (Outfit that the deceased will be dressed in including underclothes)
Jewelry and/or personal items that you want the deceased to wear or be with them.
Remembering that these items can be removed and returned to you before final disposition
Personal cosmetics (i.e. special lipstick, fingernail polish, foundation color or other items)
Additional photos for DVD tributes and/or display.
Additional personal display items that can be used at the visitation or other services.